Handling Difficult Attorneys and Recovering from Stressful Jobs as a Court Reporter

Court reporting is a profession that demands precision, patience, and resilience. It’s a challenging job on the best of days, but when you’re faced with a difficult attorney, an uncontrollable witness, and an overwhelming environment, it can feel downright impossible. If you’ve ever walked out of a deposition or courtroom feeling like you’ve been through a battle, you’re not alone.

The inspiration for this article comes from a real-life experience that many court reporters can relate to. A recent job involved extreme crosstalk, an unruly witness, and an attorney who contributed to the chaos rather than controlling it. Despite multiple admonishments and efforts to maintain order, the session spiraled into an incomprehensible mess. The court reporter in question did what was necessary—protected the record, insisted on clarity, and refused to allow the legal process to override the necessity of accurate transcription. The aftermath? Both the attorney and reporter decided they never wanted to work together again.

While frustrating, these situations come with the territory. Below, we explore strategies for managing difficult attorneys, maintaining professionalism, and recovering from high-stress jobs.


Dealing with Difficult Attorneys

Some attorneys are wonderful to work with, while others can make a deposition feel like an uphill battle. When you encounter the latter, here’s how to navigate the situation:

1. Set the Tone Early

At the beginning of a proceeding, it helps to establish expectations. A simple statement such as, “For the clarity of the record, please ensure only one person speaks at a time,” can serve as a gentle yet firm reminder to everyone in the room.

2. Know When to Interrupt

If the crosstalk or rapid-fire questioning gets out of hand, don’t hesitate to interject. Use professional yet authoritative phrasing, such as:

  • “Excuse me, I need to ensure a clear record. Could you please repeat that?”
  • “One person at a time, please.”
  • “I need to clarify who is speaking.”

Your job is to ensure the transcript is accurate. If the situation gets out of control, it’s within your right—and duty—to step in.

3. Keep Emotions in Check

Even when an attorney is combative, dismissive, or outright rude, it’s crucial to remain professional. Stay calm, neutral, and unwavering in your commitment to the record. If necessary, take a deep breath and remind yourself: Their attitude is not a reflection of your skills or professionalism.

4. Document Issues and Advocate for Yourself

If an attorney is consistently difficult, document your experience and report it to your agency. If you feel comfortable, communicate with the hiring firm about any serious concerns. While you can’t always control where you’re assigned, you can advocate for yourself and set boundaries.

5. Accept That Some Attorneys Won’t Appreciate You—And That’s Okay

Not every attorney will respect the work you do, but that doesn’t diminish your value. If an attorney complains about you when you were simply doing your job, don’t take it personally. As seen in the real-life example that inspired this article, sometimes mutual dislike is the best outcome—you won’t have to deal with them again!


Recovering After a Stressful Job

After a particularly grueling deposition or trial, it’s vital to decompress. Stress can build up quickly, and without proper recovery strategies, burnout becomes a real risk. Here’s how to reset:

1. Take Time Off If Needed

If a job completely drains you, don’t hesitate to step away from the record for a day or two if possible. Use the time to rest, recharge, and regain your mental clarity. Recognizing when you need a break is a sign of professionalism, not weakness.

2. Engage in Stress-Relieving Activities

Find activities that help you unwind. Some suggestions include:

  • Exercise: Go for a walk, hit the gym, or practice yoga.
  • Hobbies: Engage in something you enjoy, whether it’s reading, painting, or baking.
  • Socializing: Connect with friends, fellow court reporters, or supportive colleagues who understand the challenges of the job.

3. Practice Self-Care

Court reporting is a mentally demanding profession, so taking care of yourself is non-negotiable. Get enough sleep, stay hydrated, and nourish your body with healthy food. If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed often, consider mindfulness techniques such as meditation or deep breathing exercises.

4. Connect with Other Court Reporters

One of the best ways to recover from a stressful experience is to talk about it with those who understand. Online forums, local meet-ups, and social media groups can provide a space for venting, advice, and camaraderie. The court reporting community is a strong one, and you’re never alone in your struggles. Facebook vents groups are aplenty: Court Reporters Vent Uncensored, court reporters vent here, court reporters who like spice in their vent, et cetera.

5. Reaffirm Your Purpose

On tough days, it’s important to remember why you chose this profession. Court reporting is an essential role in the legal system. You provide an unbiased, accurate account of proceedings, ensuring justice and fairness. Even when it feels thankless, your work matters.


Final Thoughts

Difficult attorneys, chaotic depositions, and high-pressure situations are all part of the job, but they don’t have to break you. By setting firm boundaries, maintaining professionalism, and prioritizing self-care, you can navigate even the toughest days with confidence. And remember—if an attorney doesn’t appreciate you for doing your job correctly, that’s their problem, not yours.

If you ever find yourself struggling, take comfort in knowing that you’re not alone. We all have war stories from the field, and we all bounce back stronger.

So, to those who have had “one of those jobs”—take a deep breath, enjoy your well-earned time off, and know that you’re doing great work.

Now, go ahead—vent, commiserate, and then let it go. Tomorrow is a new day, and you’ve got this!

Published by stenoimperium

We exist to facilitate the fortifying of the Stenography profession and ensure its survival for the next hundred years! As court reporters, we've handed the relationship role with our customers, or attorneys, over to the agencies and their sales reps.  This has done a lot of damage to our industry.  It has taken away our ability to have those relationships, the ability to be humanized and valued.  We've become a replaceable commodity. Merely saying we are the “Gold Standard” tells them that we’re the best, but there are alternatives.  Who we are though, is much, much more powerful than that!  We are the Responsible Charge.  “Responsible Charge” means responsibility for the direction, control, supervision, and possession of stenographic & transcription work, as the case may be, to assure that the work product has been critically examined and evaluated for compliance with appropriate professional standards by a licensee in the profession, and by sealing and signing the documents, the professional stenographer accepts responsibility for the stenographic or transcription work, respectively, represented by the documents and that applicable stenographic and professional standards have been met.  This designation exists in other professions, such as engineering, land surveying, public water works, landscape architects, land surveyors, fire preventionists, geologists, architects, and more.  In the case of professional engineers, the engineering association adopted a Responsible Charge position statement that says, “A professional engineer is only considered to be in responsible charge of an engineering work if the professional engineer makes independent professional decisions regarding the engineering work without requiring instruction or approval from another authority and maintains control over those decisions by the professional engineer’s physical presence at the location where the engineering work is performed or by electronic communication with the individual executing the engineering work.” If we were to adopt a Responsible Charge position statement for our industry, we could start with a draft that looks something like this: "A professional court reporter, or stenographer, is only considered to be in responsible charge of court reporting work if the professional court reporter makes independent professional decisions regarding the court reporting work without requiring instruction or approval from another authority and maintains control over those decisions by the professional court reporter’s physical presence at the location where the court reporting work is performed or by electronic communication with the individual executing the court reporting work.” Shared purpose The cornerstone of a strategic narrative is a shared purpose. This shared purpose is the outcome that you and your customer are working toward together. It’s more than a value proposition of what you deliver to them. Or a mission of what you do for the world. It’s the journey that you are on with them. By having a shared purpose, the relationship shifts from consumer to co-creator. In court reporting, our mission is “to bring justice to every litigant in the U.S.”  That purpose is shared by all involved in the litigation process – judges, attorneys, everyone.  Who we are is the Responsible Charge.  How we do that is by Protecting the Record.

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